Vaginal ejaculation, more commonly referred to as ‘female ejaculation’, has been a thing of mystery, controversy, and one of the most hotly debated questions in modern day sexology. Disputes about its existence, the fluid expelled, and its bodily origins have been a hot topic since researchers took on the subject years ago. Though there aren’t concrete answers to every aspect of vaginal ejaculation, today we have a pretty good understanding of what it’s all about.
Vaginal ejaculation, though relatively new to the world of physiology, has a deep history dating back to 16th century western culture. In tantric sex, developed in ancient eastern cultures, female ejaculate is referred to as ‘amrite’, which translates to ‘the nectar of the Gods’. As studies into vaginal health have become more common and less stigmatized, it has been theorized that vaginal ejaculate and ‘squirting’ are two different things.
Rarely discussed in sexual education programs, and widely misrepresented in pornography, the two terms have often been lumped together. In reality, vaginal ejaculation is actually the release of prostate specific antigen (PSA) from the Skene’s glands (vaginal prostate). These glands are composed of microanatomical structures near the opening of the urethra, which produce a very scanty, thick, white colored fluid. Squirting, on the other hand, is an expulsion of clear, diluted fluid from the vulva. The amount of fluid can vary from person to person, thought the average amount is 75ml or the equivalent to half a coffee cup.
There is a lot of debate over whether vaginal ejaculation is just the expulsion of urine during the moment of orgasm. While it can be a common thing to experience stress incontinence, which is the release of a small amount of urine during rigorous activity like sex and orgasms, this urine is not the same liquid expelled during vaginal ejaculation. Although the ejaculate produced when you “squirt” IS released from the urethra and its surrounding glands, it should not be confused with pee. That being said, trace amounts of urine can be found in the expelled prostate fluid, simply because they “share the same plumbing.” Confusing, I know!
In some studies, 30 to 50% of vagina owners reported ejaculating in one way or another and many more may have done it without realizing. Sensationalized and often depicted unrealistically, the mainstream porn industry has trivialized vaginal ejaculation, suggesting it happens to all persons with vaginas and in a very fluid heavy, euphoric way. This simply isn’t true. While ejaculating during orgasm can be great for some, it can also bring on feelings of embarrassment and anxiety for others. Due to misguided education and unrealistic standards, we have often been taught that sex should be clean and is only pleasurable as such. As we are unfamiliar with the normality of vaginal ejaculation, it can feel more like wetting the bed than a natural bodily function. It can be hard to rid yourself of these shameful feelings, but like with anything else, the more you practice, the easier it becomes.
Though there is no one method to induce vaginal ejaculation, there are a few tested tips and tools you can use in your exploration. First off, being relaxed both physically and mentally are key. Just like an orgasm, any tension or metal reservations can restrict your pleasure — so do whatever you can do to get as comfortable as possible. This might mean having your first vaginal ejaculation experiences alone during masturbation. Make sure you are well hydrated and have used the restroom beforehand. One of the big issues people find with vaginal ejaculation is that it has similar feelings to needing to pee. Sometimes these sensations get confused and holding back to urge to release will prevent ejaculation from happening. Once comfortable, start to stimulate your G spot or internal prostate area. The prostate fluid will build up over time as this area is stimulated and you should feel it expand. Sometimes this area can be hard to reach and stimulate for a long time, especially during solo play. The Njoy Pure Wand was designed specifically for this curve of the body and won’t tire out hands and wrists. As the fluid starts to build the sensation of needing to pee will heighten also. Let go and allow this feeling to happen without trying to engage your muscles into stopping the sensation. Stimulating your clitoris can help can help get you to the point of release. When you eventually reach orgasm, the fluid should be released in a whirlwind of wet pleasure.
If you’re having a hard time getting to that release, have patience! If you’ve been training your body to hold it back for many years, it can be a hard thing to let go. It can be helpful to practice calming breathing exercises, meditation, or some light yoga to relieve the body and mind of stress. Also, make sure you don’t set your expectations too high on your first attempt. Think of your exploration as a journey instead of a means to an end. Every body is unique and shows pleasure in it’s own way.